In the early hours of November 9th 2016 Donald Trump won the 2016 Election and become President Elect of the United States of America.

If you are looking for details of that story, you have come to the wrong place; that is not why I am writing this.

I am writing this, for you.

For if you (as I do) think that Donald Trump as President is a Very Bad Idea, then we have work to do.

I know that it is too soon.  That for some of you the shock and disbelief will be too near; but despair is a luxury we cannot afford.

Donald Trump did not win the election by accident.  People voted for him; in vast numbers.  And this day is the darker for it.

If you are angry, I understand.  If you are scared, I understand.  If you cannot believe this is happening, I understand.

Trump’s election has shone a harsh light on the very real wounds of America, wounds which speak bluntly to our collective failure as citizens of the world.  Our failure to effectively educate, our failure to heal division, our failure to meaningfully engage.

But now is not the time for blame or recrimination.  Hatred cannot be our answer, and more fear will only feed the fires of division.  This is our time now, our challenge; this is the task that has been set before us.

Apathy is the enemy.  If we give up we become part of the problem.  If we want things to improve we have to work.

Moving forward, we must work to effectively educate.  We must work to heal division.  And we must work to engage more people in this process.

Because this is not just about America, it is about the world and every soul in it.  It is about you, and it is about me; it is about our families, and it is about our friends; it is about our future, and it is about the world we choose to leave behind for those who will follow.

Take heart my friend.  If you are reading this then there is hope.  Today may be dark but, as long as we still draw breath we carry with us the opportunity to make things better.  This is not hyperbole, nor is it panacea.  I believe it with every fiber of my being.

I believe in us.

And I believe, in you.

Love.


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  1. Thank you yet again James, for not giving in to cynicism and despair. Challenging days to be sure; the fear is real and palpable – for what the future will bring, and for what it may cost us worldwide. I have been reminded in the last few days of all the lights the world – many of them musicians – who spoke and continue to speak the truths we all need to hear. David Bowie and Leonard Cohen among them. Reblogged, with thanks.

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    1. Thankyou very much for reading it, for sharing it, and for your kind words.
      Challenging days indeed. I have been reminded of that too. I have thrown myself into my work – I am finishing up an EP, and it is definitely helping. I am a little concerned that others seem to be tending towards normalising who Trump is. I have no problem with optimism, but I think we need to stay alert and realistic.
      Thanks again for sharing this. We need as much good media as we can muster right now.
      Be well,
      – J

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  2. I have read your article & all the comments and I wanted to say something to you. I love your writing and the soul behind it. Keep doing what you do because it really matters. You are one of life’s special human beings, I just know it, I wish more people thought like you. Thank you for your words, don’t stop talking, what you say and feel on your blog resonates with me deeply and words can change lives. Thank you for your honestly, your openness, it is a powerful thing.

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  3. I admit I’m still in shock over it all. What I thought was impossible has happened. The one thing Trump has done for my country (in spite of himself) has been to expose just how prevalent racism and misogyny still are, and that almost half of my country is still okay with it. That’s terrifying, but it’s also important. It takes all the voices that have been saying that racism isn’t a thing anymore, that feminism is no longer needed, and it says ‘oh, really?’ But, I admit, I’m scared of what the next four years will bring us. I’m scared for my LGBTQ+ friends, who are going to almost certainly have their hard-won rights stripped from them under a conservative banner and a VP who thinks you can electrocute gay people until they become straight. I’m scared for my darker skinned friends under the thumb of a presidency endorsed by the KKK. I’m scared for my friends who are legal citizens but weren’t born in this country.

    But, through it I remind myself that Hillary Clinton won the popular vote. The electoral college assigned the presidency to Trump anyway. I take consolation from the knowledge that more than half of us know what a terrible idea giving this man the reigns of power is; we just can’t do anything to stop it.

    What is in our power is to speak up against injustices when we see them, though. To support businesses that support equality and boycott businesses that don’t, to continue, in a peaceable way, to say, ‘this is not what the USA is about’ until people start to listen. And to keep reminding ourselves, so we don’t panic and think we are surrounded on all sides by hate, that the voting public didn’t fail. The archaic voting system used to count those votes, did.

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    1. First, thankyou for stopping by.
      I hear you. I think that there are a great many people around the world feeling very similar feelings to you right now; over the last few days I have spoken with a great many of them. You are not alone.
      I agree with you. I think that there are some hard times ahead and, like you, I also think that there is hope.
      I am heartened by the fact that, historically, some of the best things have come from some of the darkest times. It is my hope that we will be able to use this to move forward together.
      I applaud your ways of moving forward, and I applaud you for taking action. More of this please ;-)
      Have a good evening, I am here should you need me,
      Be well,
      – J

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  4. James,

    I would like to preface this by saying: I adore you (as I hope you know), and I believe you are doing truly good, valuable, important work here. With that said, however – I must disagree with the core of this post. I hope you understand that much of the backlash against Donald Trump happening right now is not due to hatred, as you claim – but rather, due to righteous fear, anger, indignation.

    I speak as a young, queer American woman of colour when I tell you that I do not think you, as a heterosexual, cisgender, English caucasian man, could ever fully understand what my people are going through right now. You need only turn to the news to see the horrific acts of racism, sexism, homophobia, and related bigotry that this decision has spurred (and… it is only day 3). We are furious, terrified, and rightly so. By comparing our anger to hatred, you effectively use your enormous privilege to silence us and devalue our work.

    This is not hatred; this is love. This is not evil; this is cleansing fury. This is the voice of a people who are tired of being shut down. Our fight is one for justice.

    As you said in an earlier post, changing one’s mind is perhaps the truest act of courage there is. I hope that you take my words to heart, and that you do your best to use your privilege to raise up the voices of American minorities that truly need it – women, immigrants, people of colour, queer people. With all the great respect you are due, I say this: it is not the time for you to stand on your soapbox. It is the time for you to listen. And to share the voices that have been silenced in this election and will be silenced over the next four years of this hellish presidency.

    Thank you.

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    1. My beautiful friend. I adore you too.
      Thankyou for your message. I hear you. Allow me to try and address some of the concerns you’ve raised.
      Let me begin with your last point (that I should listen).

      The reason I wrote this piece was: after staying up for 30+ hours and sitting with people on Twitter while the results came in, I started to get more and more messages from people who were genuinely: concerned, then frightened, then freaking out. One in particular was from an American mother in an interracial marriage who was terrified (her words) for her children. After I’d read and answered all of these (there were well over 100) I felt I should write something for the world at large. Since it has been posted, I have been corresponding and doing my best to foster dialogue between people from all sides of the argument – many of whom are just as scared (including some people who voted for Trump).

      Secondly, you say that by comparing your anger to hatred I am using my ‘white privilege’ to devalue your work. The fact that you think this saddens me greatly. In the first instance, I would suggest you go back and reread the piece (as I have, after getting your note).
      I do not say anywhere in it that the anger people are feeling is hatred, or that it is invalid. I also do not suggest inaction. In fact, the whole post is a call to action. (If that is not what you took from it may represent a failure to communicate effectively on my part, and I apologize for it.)

      Now IS the time for action but, (and here is the key point): There is a marked difference between: righteous anger, and unconsciously venting due to grief and fear. The one, correctly directed can topple governments and effect real change, the other only fuels fires that end up burning everybody.
      Let me ask you a question. If you were a good person, who voted for Trump, and then was confronted by a group of angry scary people who seemed to genuinely hate you (and felt as if they were absolutely in the moral right to do so), would that make you more or less likely to come together with them in dialogue?

      Lastly, and with the greatest respect I say to you that I find it more than a little hurtful that, in this message you have essentially: stereotyped me, made assumptions about my sexuality, and stated that, because I have a certain: gender, skin colour, and (totally assumed) sexual orientation that I ‘cannot understand’ and ‘should’ act in a certain way.

      Respectfully: Fuck That.

      I am, have, and always will be on Team People. While I am not blind to the differences that enrich our collective culture, I make no distinctions or assumptions based on: skin color, sexual orientation, politics, or anything else. I have been born as I have been born and I see no reason to feel shame or apologize because of it. I am happy to be judged by my actions and expression, but not by my skin color.

      I realise that this may come across harshly, please believe that it is not my intention to harm. I feel genuine affection for you, which I think is why your remarks cut so deeply. If I have caused you any unnecessary pain I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me.

      I remain, your friend and wish you the absolute best. If there is anything I can do to help you, please let me know.

      And, if you are sincere about really having an impact, I would recommend reading ‘Rules for Radicals’ by Saul Alinsky, which is a manual for how to effectively organize, and produce real social change.

      Yours,

      – J

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      1. James,

        I am truly sorry for having hurt you. It was not my intention in the least, and to know that I did is a sad thing for me. I hope you will accept my deepest apologies. It was also ignorant and wrong for me to make such snap assumptions your sexuality. I apologise for that, as well, and hope you will forgive me.

        With that said – please know that I mention your skin colour and gender not out of stereotype, but simply out of truth. Privilege is not something to be ashamed of; it is something to be aware of and to use wisely. We cannot make the gross generalisation that all people are the same and have the same experiences & opportunities as each other. To do so is not to take the high road, but to ignore vital subtleties in socialisation that make us who we are.

        I think perhaps I may have worded my first comment incorrectly, so let me make it clear: I have no anger towards you as a caucasian male. However, I do have anger in this specific instance – in an election where a racist, sexist bigot has succeeded the presidency – when caucasian males then make their voices heard in the din of shock & fury that follows. Dear James, I love and respect you, but that does not change the fact that you will not face the same sexism, racism, and general horror that minorities will (and already are, if the news reports are being truthful) as a result of this election. For that reason, I stand by my claim that you cannot understand what we are going through. You can sympathise & you can stand by us as a brother – as I commend you for doing – but you cannot understand. It is no fault of yours. It is simply the plain truth.

        I believe that the only right thing for caucasian males to do, in this situation, is to raise up the voices of those minorities who have been silenced for generations and who will be silenced even more over the next four years due to this horrific presidency. It is like this: when black people are shot on the streets, I do not pretend to understand what African Americans are going through. I offer my moral support, I donate to NAACP and other organisations doing important work in black communities, I retweet + share the voices of black activists, but I do not speak over them. I ask you to do the equivalent for us in this situation.

        Here is what I gleaned from this post: that you believe the righteous anger of minorities (on social media, on blogs, in petitions, in art, in street protests) equates to hatred. I will share the specific line that makes me think this to be true:

        “But now is not the time for blame or recrimination. Hatred cannot be our answer, and more fear will only feed the fires of division. This is our time now, our challenge; this is the task that has been set before us.”

        I say again, fury is not hatred. Defiance is not hatred. What is hatred? One of my dear friends called me today sobbing because a man walked up to her and tore off her hijab on the subway. What is hatred? An old Spanish teacher of mine posted a photograph on Facebook of his whiteboard, scribbled with vitriol about how he should go back to Mexico, where he came from. That is hatred.

        Please, do not confuse the two. Listen to our voices. Know that this is not an attack on you – but also, know this is not your time to speak. It is your time to listen.

        I would also like to leave two articles here, both of which I have found very informative and necessary in speaking with my caucasian friends about race and privilege. Firstly: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/11-things-white-people-need-to-realize-about-race_us_55b0009be4b07af29d576702

        And secondly: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/good-men-project/why-its-so-hard-to-talk-to-white-people-about-racism_b_7183710.html

        I hope you are well, my friend – and I hope that I may still call you that. Please know that I care about you immensely, through all of this and more.

        Topaz x

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        1. Topaz,

          It makes me happy to hear from you. I had hoped that I would.

          After reading this, I think that we are actually saying something very similar (so thankyou for clarifying your point of view).
          First thing: you say (to me) “you believe the righteous anger of minorities (on social media, on blogs, in petitions, in art, in street protests) equates to hatred.”

          This is incorrect.

          If you read my last comment, you will see that I draw a very clear distinction between: righteous anger, and indiscriminate venting due to grief. The former can be constructive, (and I welcome it, especially now as, I believe that there is a lot of action to be taken) whereas the latter can end up causing the same harm as the thing it claims to be opposing. As Gandhi said: ‘An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.’

          If you look at the part of my writing that you cite here:
          “But now is not the time for blame or recrimination. Hatred cannot be our answer, and more fear will only feed the fires of division. This is our time now, our challenge; this is the task that has been set before us.” What I am saying is: we find ourselves in a situation where something has happened which has stunned a great part of the world, collectively, and individually. There exists in this moment a danger of: looking back, of becoming angry at what has happened, at raging with no purpose, and ultimately causing more damage and hurt, and that this would be a great, great waste. Because: we cannot look to the past, we must look at where we are right now, and use that as impetus for constructive action because, if we can do that and work together, then we have a real chance to actually improve things.

          (As I said in the previous comment: if that didn’t come across, then the fault is mine for not being clearer. I wrote the post swiftly, as best I could and it is a necessarily brief medium. That said, I stand by it and would not change it.)

          I think that the attacks on people, verbal, physical, and emotional are disgusting and unconscionable and I am sorry for every single person who has, or is suffering because of this. That is the reason I wrote the piece; it is the reason I am talking to so many people; and it is the reason why I am doing my best to have a positive effect on the situation, above and beyond what I need personally.

          OK. Now, you have said in your comment ‘…I believe that the only right thing for caucasian males to do, in this situation, is…’ and I disagree with the sentiment of this statement vigorously. My friend, how is it that you feel qualified to segment part of the population of earth, and tell them what they *should* do, based on skin color and gender? This seems like a *very* slippery slope to me. For example I wonder how you would feel if I said to you: ‘…I feel that the only right thing for women to do is…’?

          Also, I very much take umbrage with your statement ‘…now is not your time to speak.’ Really? Are you honestly saying that you know better than I whether I should speak about a subject? That you feel that you should somehow be able to censor / control another human being’s freedom of expression? I would be very curious about your reasoning behind this. Again, it feels like a very dangerous precedent.

          I believe we are all human beings. That we are all essentially the same. That we all have problems, and that some problems are bigger than others. I believe that, to make things better for everybody we need to move away from focusing on petty differences, or past hurts, and work together. You cannot make something better whilst searching for payback. The two things are mutually exclusive.

          Allow me to give you a trifling example from my own life. I was born with (very) ginger hair, and very dark freckles on very pale skin (I was a super weird and goofy looking kid). Because of this, I would periodically get bullied, made fun of, and be thoroughly physically beaten by groups of kids. Simply because of my hair and skin color. Because I was different in a small way. Now, do I think that because you do not have red hair and freckles that you cannot possibly empathize with, or feel sympathy for a kid that was bullied because of these things at school? Hell no! In fact, I think you could sympathize greatly. Why? Because bullying is universal and shitty no matter the scale of it. Abuses of power are universal and shitty regardless of the reasons behind it or the target. And a person in pain is a person in pain, irrespective of gender, history, skin color or political affiliation.
          Please understand. I am not equating being bullied as a kid to anything anyone else has gone thru or is going thru now. It is a very small thing next to some other problems I am simply writing about it to share something with you that may help you understand and to illustrate to you that, as long as you do not close yourself off to others by labelling them as ‘other’ there is a great possibility for both empathy and mutual cooperation.

          Lastly: my dear friend, I speak out as a human being. And I speak out when I feel that it is right for me to do so. That is not going to change (even tho you have ordered me to) and for this, I also apologize ;-)

          Topaz, you will always be able to call me a friend. I hope the same is true from your side but I will understand if it changes,

          Big love, big hug, your freckled brother in arms,

          – J

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          1. James,

            Ah – I see now what you mean with regards to the anger. Thank you for clarifying for me. I do agree with you that hatred is not & will never be the answer – and I see where I may have misread your thoughts. We agree on this matter, I think, and I am glad for it.

            However… I am afraid I still cannot agree with you in your latter point, for reasons I believe I have already made clear (namely, because it assumes we are all on a level playing field, which is so very untrue). I am sad that you are unwilling to change your views, but I can see that your mind is made up already. I must admit it is a hurtful thing for me to know that you will not stand with us in silent solidarity, rather than contributing to the din of attempting to lead us in a fight that has always been ours.

            With that said, I do still care about you and hope you are well. I send love & respect your way.

            Topaz

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            1. Topaz,

              That is really great. I am very glad we are on the same page.

              On the contrary, my mind is fully open to change on this subject – I simply cannot see any good reason to do so. I think that we want the same things (Trump not in office, to minimise any harm (both physical and otherwise), and to work for tolerance and non-discrimination for all). Given those things, I fail to see how the cause would be served by someone (with a modest platform, an audience, and some small amount of influence), staying silent – and because of his skin color?

              It seems antithetical to the cause itself.

              Personally, I want to make things better for every person that I can. And I cannot see how abstaining from doing the work that could move myself and others towards that aim furthers that.
              If you disagree, then please explain why clearly. If what you say is true, maybe I am unable to grasp some important point, because I am a white male. If this is true, then I would honestly welcome the education.

              I believe we want the same things. And I believe we are fighting the same fight. Even tho our circumstances and history differ, I believe that we both have energy and skills that we can use to make progress happen.

              I hope this finds you well. I am sorry if any of it comes off as argumentative – that is not my intention, I only seek to understand.

              Lastly, thanks for having this discussion with me in public, I think that it may be valuable.

              Stay strong,

              – J

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              1. James,

                We are indeed in agreement about the fact that Donald Trump should not be in the White House – yet, why is this the case? It is, fundamentally, because he is a sexist, racist bigot. The people of America (& the world as a whole) who are most affected by such a president are the ones who have been oppressed for centuries by the very ideals that he triumphs – women, people of colour, non-cisgender people, and other minorities. Should we not, therefore, be listening to their voices, first & foremost? Considering they are the ones who will be impacted, why on earth would we try to speak over them?

                I am not in any way trying to place stereotypes on you, and I have no doubt your intentions are only the best. To that end, I ask that you educate yourself and know that your people are part of a long history of silencing minorities by attempting to speak over them. Sharing your opinion in these situations only continues this tradition – especially since we do unfortunately still live in a world where, when white men speak, they are listened to far more than any minorities.

                Let us use your freckles example, from earlier. How would you feel if I (a person with no freckles to speak of) chose to crusade in favour of freckles… only to have everyone around us listen to me and heap mountains of praise on me for my support, while no one listened to your voice? That would be ridiculous! How could I, as a person with no freckles & therefore no experience with the bullying that comes along with them, possibly assume I know anything about your experience? Of course, I could not – that would simply be ignorant of me. If I wanted to be a good ally, I would instead use my privilege as a non-freckled person and tell everyone around us to listen to you (rather than sharing my own opinions). I would direct those who came to me asking about how to support freckled people to the only person who actually knows what support is needed – that is, you, as a freckled individual. I would, of course, express my staunch support for the freckled cause – but I would do so via sharing the words of the people who are actually affected by the oppression, not adding my completely inexperienced voice to the mix & effectively silencing those who actually need to be heard.

                I ask, then, that you do the same in this instance – and show your beautiful & strong support in ways that will truly benefit those who need it. If you are really & truly interested in making impact & change, this is the only way to do so.

                As well: I hope you do not mind, James, if I leave this thread here, rather than replying to further discussion. I am sure other minorities, should they stumble upon the conversation, could convey these points far better than me, and I tire of rehashing what generations before me have already worn to the bone. There are better ways, I think, to spend our time & energy. Thank you for understanding.

                Topaz

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                1. Ok, I think we are getting somewhere here.
                  Here is why, whereas you seem to see Trump as a problem mostly for minorities, I see him as a problem for humans.
                  Not even American humans. Just all humans. So I see it as everybody’s job to speak up.
                  Secondly, re your freckles point, it would honestly not bother me at all. All I would care about is the issue itself – if, by someone else speaking up about it the issue was solved, I wouldn’t care even if I was abjectly ignored. I care about the issue, not ownership of the struggle or credit for fighting.
                  As I write this, I hope within myself that you will understand that I am not arguing a point. I have taken the things you have said very seriously, and I have thought upon them deeply. And this response is what I think is true.
                  Where I very much agree with you, would be on a cause like ‘Black Lives Matter’ for example. In this case, I would not feel that it would be appropriate for me to argue from my own experience, and I would proceed pretty much as you have suggested – focusing attention on those who were affected.
                  In this case tho, it seems obvious that Trump could be just a really bad idea for literally everyone. I have been discussing it with many of my friends, and I do not subscribe to the idea that he will change once he is in office.
                  To my mind, we need literally every single soul who will fight in this battle. If you do not wish to fight alongside me I understand completely. As I have said previously, I have a great affection for you, I have enjoyed our conversations, and I wish you the very best in everything you do.
                  Especially this.
                  Big hug, big love, see you,
                  – J

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  5. Thank you, James, for reaching out and offering a safe space for anyone who might need it. Your words touched me deeply…we are hurting because a bright light has been shone upon us, revealing our many flaws, to remind us that we MUST do better – you are right, it’s time to roll up our sleeves, suffer through the pain of this particular alchemy and allow ourselves to become the loving human beings that we were always meant to be.

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        1. Hey, I just wanted to catch you in between your studio time and responding to so many who may be reaching out to you – I’ve missed seeing your posts on IG and wanted to know that you are well. I’m glad I re-visited your post to learn that yes, all is well and you are still fighting the good fight!

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  6. You’re lucky with the pro-Trump commenters your blog received – in the last 48hrs I’ve gotten threats, to either die or that they would come to rape me or that I should return to my fucking country (which s funny because I’m born and raised American) and I’m not the only one (and my threats have been positively mild compared to one’s other friends have gotten). My cousin was jeered at and heckled while at work on the base he’s stationed at because of his religion and the color of his skin. Co-workers and acquaintances of mine are scared to go into Lowe’s and Home Depot in fear that there will be someone who voted for this man yelling at them to go back to their country. I was jumpy all day whenever I saw someone wearing a red cap even though /I live in a blue state/.

    Yeah I know that not everyone who voted Trump isn’t a bigot, but it gets hard to remember that when the ones I see, the ones most vocal, are xenophobic and cruel and a host of other awful things and are threatening the safety of those I care about.
    Which is something I don’t think some Trump supporters realize. Yes, you might have voted for him because you agree with his economic plan or as a reprimand to the government system at large, but for every one of you, there seems to be 5 more Trump supporters who voted to take away my right to choose, to make my friends unable to get married to their partner, to make it impossible from my cousins to return home after they served overseas, to be anything that is non-white in America.
    And because the Trump supporters who don’t believe that remain silent, it feels to me and other minorities, that you condone your fellows’ actions. That’s what hurts the most – knowing that there has to be good people who do nothing to stop the bad ones.

    Trump is probably not a bad guy. I don’t have a problem with him as a person – but the policies he wants to enact and the people he surrounds himself with? Yeah, huge problem there.
    VP elect Pence promised that Donald Trump would be the anti-LGBTQ president /at the same time/ Trump was holding up gay flags for a pop piece with some of his LGBT supporters.
    They’re not even in office and there’s already dissent within its ranks. The idea of Trump being a successful President is laughable when he and his VP can’teven be knocked the same page.
    Will his Chief of Staff keep the man from his Twitter account for four years? Because seeing how reactionary he has been for the last year and a half, that’s the only feasible way to keep him from launching

    A lot of people tell me to calm down, that Trump doesn’t have unilateral power because of our balance of power but… I don’t see a balance. We have a House and Senate who are Republican – sure, probably plenty of them don’t agree with Trump, but so many of them fell in line to get elected or be elected and so long as he destroys Obamacare, i feel a lot of them would do what he wants because they think that’s what the “silent majority”, the white men and women who helped elect Trump, want, even (maybe espeically) if it means curtailing civil liberties and pushing the country back 40+ years. Because that is in essence, what they want, a return to when America was “great”.

    Had the country at least sent enough Democrats to take the Senate, maybe there could have been at least some check for Trump, but as it is, he is going to nominate someone in the Supreme Court with the expectation that they will look into Obamacare, Roe, Voting Rights and more, and find ways to make those seem unconstitutional, to take away those rights away. And the Republicans in Congress will okay it. Dems and 3rd parties will fight it but all it takes is a handful of people to cop out or not be there and, poof, we have someone ultra right, ultra conservative on the SCOTUS.

    And that scares me. Because days in America are going to be dark, and it’s going to be a long darkness. If Trump can get even a small number of his promises fulfilled, progress in America is going to be pushed back 40 years.

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    1. I hear you. I really do. And I am really sorry that you are experiencing this kind of unconscionable behaviour, that must be terrible.
      I understand your concerns. And I think that there a many who share them. You are not alone.
      If you need to connect with people, there are great folk on this comment board and on my Twitter feed, and if you need to speak to someone I am here for you. You can write me thru the mailing list: http://jamesradcliffe.email/ if you want to mail in private, or thru this thread if you don’t mind others seeing.
      There are ways to make this better. If we come together, and work together, then we can do it.
      Be well, big hug,
      – J

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    2. Hi, Hane. I’m one of the Trump supporters. Nobody should threaten you. Provide your statement to the police by making a police report detailing the incident as best you can. Also, you can write about it. I’ve posted replies of conversations I’ve experienced being called names and being lied about — up they went on my blog. Let the readers decide for themselves. Frankly, the poor sportsmanlike conduct shown by the Left to take to the streets en-masse via protest following Trump’s legitimate election solely serves to reinforce the anarchical nature and behavior of their members to a fairly-won, Democratic process of voting. The media has you brainwashed: we’re not the illiterate, white neo-nazis they make us out to be. I’m a Jewish, educated, Republican female. I’m not even recognized, by the media’s reckoning. Where is the Left about women’s rights in the Middle Eastern, non-Democratic, countries? Where is the Lefts’ voices on the thousands of rapes of German women by the recent influx of refugees and other recent entrants to that country? Haven’t you read those reports that are purportedly being made from the German police about that? Nobody is against migrants or refugees or asylum speakers. Each country has laws pertaining to it. What about the persecution of Jews, Yazidi and Christians in the Middle Eastern “Arab” countries? Where is the Lefts’ voice in support of the people who want to dance and sing to Pharrell Williams’ “Happy” without being imprisoned, or for a woman to ride a bike, or for the Jews not to be nuked off the planet by Iran — the same regime that just imprisoned my Baha’i (Iranian religious minority) blogger friend’s cousin for a month for being the wrong religion? What did the Left do? I wrote and emailed and blogged and took action. He and a few others were released, but too many still remain. The silence is deafening and the hypocrisy is clear. And while emotive responses are valid for their own reasons, I’m yet the only person who has backed-up my statements with specific instances to demonstrate and to reinforce my point and to explain the reason behind my decisions. Nothing of what anybody has said does anything to prove that Trump isn’t capable of governing our country.

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      1. The fact that you have reached out this way makes me very happy. More of this. This, is good.
        Let me also say: I agree with you. We do not know how Trump will govern because he has not yet taken office but, much like a job interview, before you appoint someone you generally look at both: previous experience and character references.
        Trump has no experience of government, but maybe that will turn out to be a positive, we don’t know yet. I think where we differ, are the public record statements he has made concerning: Muslim Americans, minorites, people from the LGBTQ community, veterans, women, disabled people, etc, etc. I think it is inarguable that he has created greater division, and fostered a divisive mindset in his followers with his comments.
        If you see the office of President as the highest public service for a country, it would seem that you’d also want to foster a culture of inclusion and tolerance. He has categorically done the opposite. Now, maybe he will act differently in office. However I honestly see no good reason or evidence to think this.
        I think that this is a lot of the reason that people are worried.
        As ever, thanks for stopping by. And Thankyou beyond words for the message you have sent here. This makes me very happy.
        (And, I am aware that I kinda hijacked this conversation – for this, I ask your forgiveness ;-)
        Have a good one,
        – J

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      2. Hi Randyjw! Thanks for your kind words!
        I have reported the threats I’ve received in social media – but it’s not feasible for me to report them to the police in my area as I don’t know any identifiable information (one of them has been banned from the site they threatened me on though so, small victory?)

        I will have to disagree with the “bad sportsmanlike conduct” – American citizens have the right to assemble where they want, to protest. I don’t agree with the isolated bits of violence or the death threats – but it’s happening on both sides which shows a problem with America as a whole, not just those of us who are upset that Clinton didn’t win. Especially since Trump supporters have been calling for Clinton to be jailed or killed for the past year. Especially since other people in the Trump camp have denied giving President Obama the chance upon his election and election, including Trump himself.

        You’re right – the media is absurdly rigged – the vocal and mean spirited supporters generate $$$ in ways others don’t. Sadly, it’s also those supporters who send people death threats. Individual congressmen – on both sides – can and probably do care about the global issues you mentioned in your post. But as a whole, neither party really addresses them, except maybe to further their own political agenda and not to better the lives of those overseas. You can’t just blame the Left for seeming uncaring of these issues when the Right is exactly the same.
        I’m personally frustrated as hell by the lack of reporting the West is giving the insanity that President Duerte is plunging the Philippines into, but I honestly can’t blame my Congressman for not bringing it up in the House.

        I will agree with “Nothing of what anybody has said does anything to prove that Trump isn’t capable of governing our country.”
        But nothing he’s done has shown he’s capable either and he’s done plenty of things to bring his capability in questoion. From mocking the disabled, to urging his supporters to enact violence on others, to even his choice in running mate makes me question him as president elect.

        …seriously though, why couldn’t the Republicans have chosen Kasich for their nominee? I could almost guarantee that while upset by a loss from Clinton, there wouldn’t be this much anger or fear at the prospect of a Kasich presidency.

        My phone ate this post twice so I’m sorry if it’s disjointed

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        1. Personally, I think it is great. And what I think is even better, is that you guys are in discourse.
          I apologize if I am interrupting again,
          But you guys give me hope. Thankyou,
          Be well both,
          – J

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          1. Thanks, James and Hane. I hope when you say, James, that “where we differ” is in his public statements, that you are not implying that I agree with some of the buffoonery of some of those statements; don’t put words in my mouth. He’s a bit of a male chauvinist in that macho-mannered way from that era. It doesn’t make it very nice speech, and I grew up in the wake of Gloria Steinem. I’m a feminist; a “Ms.” that grew up when that word was coined. I’m from a liberal state; I’ve got same-sex cousins who have been married a long time, now. I’m an unrecognized minority and a few other categories of “classes” I don’t even need to bother droning on about. I spend my days fighting anti-Semitism, and everyone seems to be okay with harming Jews on a regular basis. The leftist college campus teachers have ensured a hostile attitude to the Jewish people is welcomed, and teach the means and ways of how to accomplish that — so, I’m not surprised. So, that must be changed. There is no permissibility to allow for that anywhere, in my book. I do support reparations for Black people, but I call out BLM for their anti-Semitism and demands for free everything (I’ve read the demands and posted about it on my website). People have a right to assemble, sure. They often must get a pre-approved permit to do so. I wonder if this was pre-planned? I guess you seem to be saying that all of the threats you have received seem to have come from online sources; I get it, now. Well, yes… You can report the online harassment. It’s a wonder you had some success with that. We Jews, both individually and collectively, can’t seem to get those death threats against us taken down (and BLM says that we should have to live with discrimination by schools and institutions as protected free-speech. Wrong! BDS is in for a losing battle, and they can cry and riot all they want). The protest was another opportunity for the Left to gather in big groups to try to intimidate others. They were somewhat destructive and disorderly, ruining property, graffiti-izing property not theirs, obstructing the free flow of traffic, etc. They should just spray paint their own homes and cars; take baseball bats to the windows of their own homes to express their frustration that they didn’t get their way. Was it a constructive gathering to support Hillary Clinton? No, it was an after-the-fact aside of a juvenile gathering, who didn’t get their way in an already-determined matter, which was already settled in the fair, Democratic way we call voting. That’s Democracy! That’s what got Obama elected (but you didn’t see Republican supporters rioting and marching in droves when that happened). If what you’re saying has been true, then you do know that the secret service would have had to have checked out each and every one of those instances, right?

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            1. Again, thankyou so much for this. I really do value your viewpoint.

              Now, I have a question that I am going to ask because I am genuinely interested in the answer. I realize that I may come across as an argument, but please know that I totally respect your opinion and, tho we differ on whether it was a good or bad idea, I respect that you voted for Trump.
              My question is this: You are a feminist and you are female and, as far as I can tell, a great many women voted the same way as you did; How have you justified in your mind the boasting of sexual predation, the accusations of sexual assualt, and the fact that Trump is standing trial for rape in 2 weeks time?
              I know this seems inflammatory, and that I am trying to make a point, please believe that I am not. I am genuinely interested in how you parse this.
              Do you think that the charges were false? Or did they get less airtime in the states? (They were a central point in the UK media coverage) Or was it just that you thought Hillary was worse? Or something else?
              I am really very interested in how this played into your choice (if at all) and I would be very grateful for any insight.
              Respectfully,
              – J

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              1. I pretty much explained that in the comment to which you responded. I don’t believe I need to justify his actions. It is he who needs to do that for himself. The explanations will come out and will be considered; doing so beforehand in would be pre-judging a legal matter to which, frankly, I’m not privy.

                I don’t believe his thought process during those times represent the most advanced form of an evolved mind. Could and should he have been more respectful? Yes, he should have been. There is not much justification for it, but I will tell you this. He has kindof the “alpha male” personality. If not, then he’s cultivated it. It gives him the drive and ambition to work hard to succeed. He grew up many decades ago, in different times. Part of those times overlapped with those in which I grew up. It’s hard to believe that in the 70’s still, women were looked at as coffee-getters at work, if they worked. My working mother was an unusual phenomenon to the neighborhood of mostly housewives. Gentlemen of earlier times would open doors and pull chairs for their ladies. As women began to teach men that their condescension regarding our intellect and the value of our physicality was our own worth and being (not theirs), men have had a hard time adjusting and giving respect to women as equal beings. It may be difficult for the millenials of today to imagine, as attitudes have changed and it was so recent and not so long ago. But full knowledge and realization of this simple fact was not a given, and it was really not conceivable. We had to grow into it. My mother was chased around her place of employment by the bosses’ son. I only knew this when I began to tell her about a workplace issue once, which was barely out of my mouth, before she immediately guessed what the problem was, without my need to even tell her. Construction workers would give the old “sexy” whistle to women, the word made for it called “catcall”. And I mostly ascribe that during these times, he was a young man sowing his wild oats, as they say, and it was sortof almost considered, in some mindsets, as a normal, typical type of action of a bachelor male. I think times have changed, though we all haven’t caught up, and those of the earlier ages will take a longer time to learn the new, proper way. We are still evolving as humans, James. We are hardly as advanced as we make ourselves out to be. I’ve been the subject of some rude conversations, and was thankfully alerted to it; I confronted it and ended it. I’ve been whistled at. He realizes, even then, that this was’t a very nice way to act, but we grow. I don’t suppose he’ll ever be without his outspoken instances; I’m a similar personality, so I understand the conundrum. It’s often a foot-in-mouth problem, which is hard to reign back at times. I’m getting better at not always cussing when frustrated or angered, but it’s one of my vices. It’s not completely eliminated. I suspect the same is true of him. But I honestly think he has so much love and generosity in him. I think the matter is he lives large; his emotions, his life, and all. When he loves, he loves large. He is a bit more of an impassioned man, and I see a big effort by the millenial bunch to kindof act in a bland, quiet way, but their writings reveal much darker thoughts I find worrisome. So, I chalk it up to the era and his actions in it. Movies like “Animal House”, and that was in the 80’s, come to mind. 60’s, 70’s, 80’s, 90’s… people partied their brains out. Things were way more out of control and accepted as the norm, even when they weren’t and shouldn’t have been. Hillary’s speaks of a much deeper feeding. She, Bill, Huma and Anthony are the power/greed/politics triumvirate at all costs. Expediency to stick with their lying, cheating spouses who think nothing of their husbands/wives to have treated them like so much garbage by committing serial adultery by Bill and serial texting by Anthony (publicly being a disgusting individual), and everybody agreeing to stay together so that they can stay in political jobs riding their wives coattails, until they can get back in the arena. Yuck! Never mind Filegate, Travelgate, Benghazigate and other Hillary peccadilloes. I like — no, love — Trump’s ideas and
                thoughts for the country, and I’ve never been more excited in my entire life in the hopes I’m pitting in this one administration. My life has been desperate under the Democratic administration who want to tear things down into anarchy, much like Saul Alinsky would choose to advocate. No to Socialism; yes to capitalism and Democracy.

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  7. I’m venezuelan and my entire life I’ve hearing people talk about how was life here before Chavez and after he become president. I was just 3 years old so I can’t remember anything before him. As Trump, Chavez didn’t won the election by accident, too many venezuelans voted for him. Those venezuelans who didn’t were scared. Scared because everything he said was Hate: hate to people, to other countries, to other presidentes.. just hate. Today 18 years after, people in Venezuela are dying. Yes, dying. Because the don’t have food or medicines. Because they are killed, by thiefs to stole a cellphone or by cops just because they think different. There are students in jail just because they scream for a change. There’s a lot I could tell about how hard is living in Venezuela today, but it’s useless. But it’s “so” hard that venezuelans are leaving. There’s venezuelans living in Spain, Irlanda, Mexico, The US… !! Everybody hate us because we’re everywhere. But they don’t leave because they wanted it. nobody wants to leave their country, family, the life they used to have.. they did just for survival. We left the hate and division won us, but is not too late to America yet. Just have hope.

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    1. Hey there,
      First, thanks for writing to me – greetings from Edinburgh ;-)
      I am sorry to hear of the situation in Venezuala, that does not sound good in any way.
      Your message is a sound one, and I agree with you. It is not too late.
      I hope this finds you well, thanks again, big hug,
      – J

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  8. These are dark days, and not just for the US after this shock election outcome. All across the world (including here in Denmark) we are seeing a surge in extreme right wing ideologies, bigotry and hate. I can only hope it will galvanize those in the centre and left to ‘get their shit together’ and start building a credible and inclusive alternative to the hateful rhetoric, greed and ignorance of Trump and the corrupt self-serving elites of the political class in general.

    I have long said that all election ballot papers should have a category that says ‘None of the above’ so that voters can clearly voice their dissatisfaction with the candidates on offer. It would be a start.

    Peace and warm wishes James.

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    1. Hey Jason,
      Thankyou for this. What you are saying here is very interesting to me. We definitely felt a lot of the same things here in the UK around the Brexit vote. I agree wholeheartedly that we need to build a credible and inclusive alternative. That seems, by far the best answer to this situation.
      Thanks a lot for stopping by, please feel free to stay in touch, I would greatly value your input.
      Have a good one,
      – J

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