Stop for a second and ask yourself: ‘How hard is it to actually change someone’s mind?’
Personally, I think it can be pretty damn hard.
The central problem seems to be that, once we have publicly stated any kind of opinion it instantly becomes part of our psychological identity – something that the ego will rush in to defend with the frenzied passion of a wounded Siberian mongoose.
When we feel attacked or threatened in this manner, our knee-jerk reaction is to close down all outside inputs as we ever more frantically seek the certainty and opioid-like relief of ‘being right’.
Which is why, by subconsciously equating being proven wrong with actual damage to our psyche, we are substantively slowing the pace at which we can evolve our ideas.
Changing one’s mind demands humility.
It’s one of the reasons I write. When I think something may be true, I don’t actually know how I feel about it until I have caged it on the page and am able to regard it objectively; a crystalline structure of thought, able to be rotated thru space and viewed from more than one angle
More often than not, once I have written it out I will see flaws and gaps that were not previously apparent; sometimes small, sometimes glaring, sometimes completely invalidating.
Being subject to no-one but myself at this point, I then have the choice of either: working out the wrinkles and refining the proposition, or disregarding the idea altogether.
Writing my ideas down is a way for me to bypass the ego.
Changing our minds, both in private and in public, is a noble and luxurious act, unsung and unappreciated in our time. As our guiding ideas and principles evolve, so then, do we. This is The Real Work.
I hope it finds you well.
Much love,
J
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Thanks a lot 😉
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Shredding through ego, scratching out less-than words and posting your thoughts is the balm we need this day as the world sits on a knife-edge. Here’s hoping we all make it to the other side…
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Here’s hoping. 😉
I am optimistic.
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Fingers crossed…
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Fingers crossed.
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We can do it!
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That’s the spirit! We totally can.
I’m thinking of staying up and live-tweeting the election. Will you be on Twitter later?
– J
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I’m not on Twitter but I checked out your feed and yes, I needed to see Bean’s sweet face! I love your positive tweets – I just got an e-mail from my Aussie friend who now lives in Vancouver, she writes that she is freaking out over the election, she needs to see Bean’s picture, pronto!
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Totally send it to her. I am thinking that we are going to need much solace in the times to come.
There is some hard work coming.
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That’s one of the reasons I admire Malcolm X. When he came back from his pilgrimage to Mecca, he said basically, “You know what? I’ve met some new people, had some new experiences, learned some new things, and I have changed my mind.”
I can’t think of any other public figure who’s done that.
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You are right, I always find it refreshing when someone is able to own it publicly, irrespective of politics.
If you are interested, the Dalai Lama reversed his position on gay rights, and there have been a bunch of others who have made similarly cool public 180’s.
One of the many reasons I admire Malcolm X is the way he used his time in prison to educate himself. Education is a beautiful thing.
Thanks for this, and have a great night,
– J
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Nicely said! As you probably know, the word essay comes from the French, to try, to attempt. Ideas always evolving, yes. One reason I don’t like set philosophies, too confining, stagnant. Thank you for your insights.
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I did not know that, but I like it very much. Thankyou kindly 😉
Thanks for reading, and for taking the time to comment.
Have a good one,
– J
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I enjoyed this post very much..your words ring true! I, too, find that putting my thoughts on paper allows me to look at things from a different perspective. For me it is imperative that I be able to think openly and be able to discuss differences with others, and learn and grow because of being able to think with an open mind. I pity those who can’t be open to diverse thinking. Thank you for this post!!!
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Thankyou for reading it, and for taking the time to comment. Really glad you found something of value to you.
Have a great day,
– J
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To change ones mind is to be sensitive to life. Noble indeed James 💛
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Thankyou very much for this.
Have a great day you,
– J
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well said. and it is humbling to go back in one’s journal and discover truths which one still has to publicly acknowledge or act on.
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It really is.
Have a good one,
– J
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Isn’t it amazing how writing crystallizes our thoughts? Like a child who has learned to color within the lines, a writer learns to bring definition to ideas by transforming them into words.
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Yes. Yes. This.
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You speak the truth! Humility and a desire to know the truth and accept that it is the truth and that one is wrong. The old saying applies nicely here. “You can lead a horse (in this case a stubborn mule) but you can’t make him drink. Keep on writing the truth! I want to share this. Thank you.
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This made me very happy.
I hadn’t planned to write a post today, but this came out in about an hour. I wasn’t sure whether to post it, but you’ve made me glad I did.
Thankyou.
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Never doubt your inner voice/intuition/writer’s sixth sense or whatever you call it You’re welcome.
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Words of wisdom y’all 😉
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Thank you for this. Needs to become a life lesson taught early. Often families and school reinforce our desperate ‘need’ not to be proven wrong. So much bitterness and entrenched hostility could be prevented if it could become widely acceptable to admit mistakes, failure etc. Needs a complete cultural change though. This helps get the conversation going.
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I love this comment. Couldn’t agree more with it.
It is a strange balance, is it not, that we see changing our minds in public as signifying a lack of personal integrity?
Cultural change it is 😉
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“I don’t know how I actually feel about it until I have caged it on the page” …. I can relate to that and think it’s a great description for any creative – to be able to distance themselves emotionally from their ideas/creation and become a self-critic in the most compassionate way (often a tough challenge for artists I think!). I liked this post … based on the title I initially wondered if Nov 8 was still weighing on your mind but it veered in a different but interesting direction. Would be great for Donald to read on his golden seat though. 😉
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Oh that would be super-awesome.
He’d be like: ‘I can change my mind, I have the best mind, I am better at changing my mind than anybody. Believe me.’
Nov 8th is absolutely still weighing on my mind. 😉
Have a good one, thanks for stopping by,
– J
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Thanks for the laugh and abdominal workout! You captured him brilliantly! 😂
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Anytime. Made me smile too 😉
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Just listened to your soundtrack from the “Personal Reflections” EP … it was amazing. I actually struggle with voices in meditation but found this super relaxing!
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Thankyou so much. That really means a lot to me. Glad you liked it.
Have a good one,
– J
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Important message, James. Thank you for stating it so clearly. A closed mind is such a dangerous thing, and if people view being “wrong” as a weakness, they will never experience the joy of opening up to new ideas … and growing, and evolving, and becoming all we are capable of being. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to realize that being right isn’t the most important thing.
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It really does.
Thanks for this. Have a great night.
– J
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Humility, yes. That is what it needs to change your mind. The ability to make yourself vulnerable to a new way of thinking. And for those who can’t go there, in these dire times we could maybe learn from Kevin Dutton’s Flipnosis: The Art of Split-Second Persuasion.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, James.
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Thankyou for reading them, and for taking the time to comment.
Have a good one,
– J
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Hello James Radcliffe, how lovely to come across your beautiful, thoughtful blog. Are you some sort of an artist fellow? 🙂
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I have missed you my friend. Let’s get into it 😉
Speak soon?
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Please, let’s do. Sooner than soon. 🙂
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good one..
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Thankyou very much.
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