If something happens that is worth celebrating, I do my best to share it around.

When I have shit to deal with, I tend to deal with it by myself.

In any and all given interactions with other human beings, I do my best to be: respectful, honest, and kind.

Last but not least: I do not Whine like a Bitch on the Internet.

Here’s why:


[Bitch noun: a female dog, wolf, fox, or otter.]

If there existed objective guiding principles for human communication, it would seem to me that you could make a more than decent case for the first of them being: “Be Kind… (As the Scottish author Ian Maclaren said in a quote that is often misattributed to Plato) …for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

Whether first proclaimed in ancient Greece or the wintry highlands of Scotland, this fundamental precept has likely held true, relatively unchanged, since its inception.

What has changed however, are the forms and scope of that communication.  And not by a little.  It would not be an overstatement to say that in the information age the sheer number of souls that the average person has access to on a daily basis has exploded.  Like it or not, most citizens of the world are now thoroughly jacked in to the hive-mind; able to access wonders, connect with people on the other side of the planet, and observe all possible variations of kitten behaviour…

…with the swipe of a thumb, in the space of a heartbeat; 24 hours a day.

Censorship is largely a thing of the past, redundant and outmoded.  The gatekeepers have either thrown up their hands in defeat, or been trampled to bloody death beneath the hooves of a world-sized content stampede.  Social media has given us the power to say Anything We Want, at Anytime, to almost Anyone on the planet seemingly consequence-free; cocooned within our warm nuclear bunker safety of screen-mask anonymity.  It’s fully intoxicating.

And it makes it really easy to forget.

Easy to forget that, no matter what form it takes communication is always an exchange and always has some kind of effect.  In every interaction, no matter how seemingly insignificant, something is given and something is received; for good, or for ill.  Communication can lift up, or tear down.  Add-to, or take away.

It can heal, or it can damage.

What we do, matters.  What we say, matters.  The internet is a bullhorn which can amplify and broadcast anything we choose planet-wide.  It may be the greatest tool ever created, but it is still only a tool.  If you own a hammer you can build your beloved a house, or you can cave someone’s face in; the responsibility for the outcome always rests with the user.

This is why I choose to share my celebrations.  This is why I choose to work thru my shit in private.  This is why I strive to remain: respectful, truthful, and kind in my interactions with other human beings.

This is Why I Do Not Whine Like A Bitch On The Internet. ;-)


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Important Note:

I am aware that at first glance this post and it’s title may seem a little controversial.  This was entirely intentional.  I wanted to bring the most awareness to what I see as an incredibly important topic.  If you are frothing at the bit to have your say then by all means use the comments box to hit me up, but be aware that, before you go full anger monkey on me, you may want to check out some of the existing comment threads in which I clarify a few of the key points.

I look forward to hearing from you, and hope this finds you well.


190 thoughts on “ Why I Do Not Whine like a B*tch on the Internet… ”

  1. As a born biological cis female… ehh. *shrugs* Vocabulary that would have had me frothing at the mouth a few years back, now… doesn’t. I’ve learnt to judge by heart and behaviour and personal history, not automatically toss someone into outer darkness because they use terms currently announced verboten by a self-selected elite. I’ve also learnt that the most toxic misogyny can come at you from other females.

    Being kind is hard. Judging and punching down is so, so easy.


  2. I loved the title of the post, its what made me actually read it, Hehe.
    I liked your thoughts on the same especially two things which people somehow never understand.
    ““Be Kind… (As the Scottish author Ian Maclaren said in a quote that is often misattributed to Plato) …for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

    The internet is a bullhorn which can amplify and broadcast anything we choose planet-wide. It may be the greatest tool ever created, but it is still only a tool.

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    1. Really glad you liked it (especially the title).
      Thankyou very much for stopping by, and for taking the time to respond, I appreciate it.
      Hope you are having a good night, Miss WeirdAndNormal ;-)
      See you,
      – J


  3. That’s not a very nice title. First as a man, it would have been better to not use derogatory terms to females.

    Secondly whilst you choose not to whine, I actually found the whole blog as a whine!

    A whine being a moment to complain.

    However some people are not complaining but expressing their hurt sad moments, because unlike you or others, they have no support or comfort from others.

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    1. I can totally see why you would think that. The title was absolutely intended to be inflammatory. If you read the comments to the post, I think you will understand the reasons behind it.
      Thanks for reading the post, and for taking the time to respond. Hope your day is going well,
      – J


      1. Inflammortory to females.
        You may deal with your “shit” on your own as you put it, but it’s unfair for you to insinuate that other’s that can’t deal with their pain privately are somehow weaker or less wonderful.

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        1. I don’t think that I insinuate, or state that anywhere in the piece.
          If you take the time to read the dialogues that I’ve had with others about this in the comments section, this point may become clearer.
          Thanks again, and have a good one,
          – J


  4. I appreciate this. I just did a blog where I whined a bit. Sometimes burdens are hard to bear, especially in the moment, and it spills over when the keyboard is so near. Thank you for the reminder.

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    1. I say, that it is good to express your sadness and pain. Those that do not are the ones that are in real trouble. Some people may not have others that can understand them and find it easier to connect online.

      Whining is a me me me attitude which I don’t think you meant. Whining is a negative term. Perhaps you are releasing sadness and pain to people you believe actually care, want to support and will find comfort in. I think it’s good to “whine” to the appropriate loving caring audience.

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      1. Yes. In the sense I am using it here, whining is definitely a negative term. And, if you have read the piece and the comments you’ll see that I have made a stark distinction between: expressing your pain because you need help, or to find/help others, and venting mindlessly simply because you are unaware of the negative effect on others.
        Hope that helps.
        – J


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