Quick Thought: On the Value of Conversation…

At it’s best the act of conversation can be many things; connection, communion, truth-finding, enlightenment, inspiration, a healing…  I do not overstate when I say that I have participated in conversations that have bordered on spiritual awakenings.  But this shouldn’t really come as a surprise, I mean,

If you hit the right atoms against each other in just the right way, the world will roar a sun.

And whilst it is impossible to guarantee a good conversation, it is possible to prepare the ground; adjusting things so that the odds tilt in our favour.  It has been my experience that conversations are deep and good to the degree that the participants are willing to be truthful and present.  Fear, shame, thoughts of self image, none of these are helpful; all block the pipe.

The thing that I love about a great conversation is the same thing that I love about being part of a great gig, about making love, or participating in the creative process.  All these things are capable of rendering up jewels of light.  This is the truly good stuff; this is what makes life worth living; this is what balances the chaotic fury of flying blind thru the ever-storm of a darkening experience.

To go deeper; to plumb the depths and recesses of ourselves and the world and to be a conduit for others to do the same is a precious, maybe even sacred thing.

And I hold the few with whom I can share it very close to my heart.

Big love to you all, speak soon,

J


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174 Replies to “Quick Thought: On the Value of Conversation…”

  1. I totally agree with this sentiment. Good honest unobstructed conversation can renew one’s faith in humanity or even still become an inspiration on many levels. Honesty is key and second only to being present and in the moment. It’s truly sad that so many people only prefer to postulate rather than to honestly engage! How precious are the few who truly understand this.

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  2. James, I know this is not going to sound bizarre to you, and I have not yet even listened to your music, although I did just sign up for your newsletter. The philosophy I try very hard to live my life by comes from Nichiren Buddhism, which teaches that life is a series of cause and effect. It not only explains why our life is the way it is, and why we are the person we are, ( without a “being” who has a plan, which is easier for some to swallow who don’t want to be responsible for the condition of their life) it also puts you at the controls of where you want your life to be. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens by accident and the people who come in contact with your life is also not by accident. But if you aren’t aware of these possibilities, these people can go right on by and the opportunity can get lost if you don’t pay attention. Life can be very interesting if you keep your eyes open. By now you may think I’m a total nutcase – but I don’t think so. I have a “feeling” this may be a very interesting exchange. On that note, I think I will begin to see if I am right.

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    1. Hey there,
      I think I have heard of Nichiren Buddhism, but don’t recall reading anything about it so far. I do however, tend to take the approach that everything happens for a reason – I have no idea if this is true, but I think that it is a good belief to live by as the actions that it produces are more useful than not.
      I do not think you are a nutcase at all. And if you are, then you are, for sure, my kind of nutcase.
      Welcome to the community! 😉
      – J
      P.S. Thanks for singing up for the newsletter, have a good one, and feel free to keep in touch.

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  3. I enjoyed reading your post. It has a flow to the words that bring you along to read more. Thank you for visiting my blog and the follow. I am looking forward to reading more of your posts.
    “The thing that I love about a great conversation is the same thing that I love about being part of a great gig, about making love, or participating in the creative process. All these things are capable of rendering up jewels of light. This is the truly good stuff; this is what makes life worth living; this is what balances the chaotic fury of flying blind thru the ever-storm of a darkening experience.” This really struck me as I feel the same way. The speaking of words, the exchanging of ideas and emotions that can come together in marvelously creative ways and create ties from one being to another and light into the darkness of that can be present in our lives.

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    1. Thanks a lot for your very kind words – and for taking the time to write to me. I am really glad that you liked the post.
      I completely agree with your take on this, can’t wait to hear what you think about the rest of them.
      Be well, rest easy, and speak soon,
      – J

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  4. “To go deeper; to plumb the depths and recesses of ourselves and the world and to be a conduit for others to do the same is a precious, maybe even sacred thing.And I hold the few with whom I can share it very close to my heart.” Oh, it’s almost poetry. And hit me so hard. So very true and you put it in the very best way. Thank you.

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      1. Hello (I’m hearing Adele’s voice in my head now!), yes, I’ve been wanting to re-blog one of your posts for awhile now so I could share the discovery of your words and my go-to site if I need inspiration, new words to contemplate or to revel in (I think this may answer your query re: posting your poetry, I hope you do!) and to appreciate your kindness to all. My day is unfolding and all is good, I wish you the same…

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  5. It is great and here is why. I get two things from your post:
    1) Considering conversations on spiritual matters.
    2) You want to be a conduit for others to do the same.
    The not so good of your post? All the words you had to say to make your point. The topic is splendid. However, if you add all the “fluff” words, you will loose people in thought. Look at it like music. You write a song to convey a message or thought ( so you are appealing to one’s soul – their mind, will and emotions). People like the music because it conveys a thought or emotion, or because it is a brilliant performance (like the 4 tenors). Music scores have a time framework so we have to get right to the point when we write music, blogs or anything – in my humble opinion.

    Blessings!

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    1. Hey there,
      First, thankyou very much for both reading, and taking the time to respond – I really appreciate your comment.
      I share your focus on simplicity, that is one of the reasons that this post is so short. I always try and use the absolute least amount of words possible. I am glad you liked it, and grateful for your feedback.
      Have a great day you,
      – J

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  6. Hi James!
    Your words sound like music in my ears.
    I was born in the 60ies. My parents worked hard. Materially we had enough but the emotional well-being suffered. During my childhood it didn’t ask for our opinion. No discussions, no profound talks. We had to be thankful for everything. There have been no words of consolation. On the contrary. My mother told me always what I should have done. I stopped asking. I even stopped listening properly.
    Fortunately I’m ambitious and persistent. With over 50 years communication is still a challenge for me. To express my opinion without thinking about the possible consequences, to be honest, listen to others, process what is being heard at the same time and ask questions is still quite difficult for me.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I’m looking forward reading your blogs.

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    1. First, thankyou so much for reading this and for taking the time to write such an honest and in-depth comment.
      It is good to be ambitious and persistent. I feel that these two things are key, and am glad that you have them.
      Thanks for your input, I’m looking forward to writing them. 😉
      Have a good one,
      – J

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