The 5 Reasons I get Happier as I get Older…

Long past the grim-dark of midnight, in a loud and crowded bar somewhere in the red-brick old town of Edinburgh, I found myself talking with a friend who was well and truly down in her cups due to a recently ‘celebrated’ birthday.

As the conversation unfolded, she repeatedly invited me to commiserate with her on the general unfairness of aging and the perceived dearth of her bright glow youth; to which I replied that, in all honestly, as I have gotten older I have noticed myself becoming markedly happier.

Sitting up suddenly, alert, incredulous, (and swaying not a little) she blurted: ‘How is that even possible?’.

This post is my answer to that question.

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Oh! Time, you cruel bitch… ;-)

The 25th of July is my given birthday.  And on that date in 2015 I will be 37 years old.

Since my later childhood, with each year that has passes, I become happier.  This is not intended to be a boast, nor is it hubris or hyperbole, it is merely the truth.  This upward trend in the quality of my inner life has been consistent enough, and has continued for a long enough span of time that, at this point it cannot be ascribed to mere happenstance or luck.  The truth of the matter is that, far from being accidental, I believe the lions share of this utterly welcome phenomenon is down to five things that I actively: do, focus on, and cultivate in my day-to-day.

Would you like to know what they are?

#1 Meditation:

I have written before about what I consider to be the real value of meditation.  This practice, along with the process of doing my work, may well be the greatest tool and gift I have received in my life.

Imagine each day were a journey you had to take by car.  Every morning you must climb into the driver’s seat and set off on the road until you reach your destination.  The problem is, every day the windshield and mirrors are thick grimed with dust and the handbrake has reset to the ‘on’ position.  So you are faced with a choice.  You can rush to get started and drive your drive, hardly able to see the road ahead with the brakes all-screaming in your ears or… you could take a little time before you set off each morning to clean the dust from your windshield and mirror, and release the handbrake.

Meditation has had a global effect on my life.  It has made everything better.

#2 The Physical:

I work out most days for at least an hour, and have done so for a long time and, strange as it may seem, the physical gains (while a welcome side benefit), are not the primary driver behind this particular behaviour.

Long ago I noted that: on days that I work out, I am able to be a better person; both for myself and for the people around me.  I am able to work harder for longer, to sustain focus, and create things of a much higher quality.  I am able to be kinder, calmer, more compassionate, and more loving.

On days that I work out, I operate at a different frequency.

#3 Reading and Study:

I have written previously on this blog about some of the reasons why I think reading is so important.  I have also posted about how many books I read each month.  Something I haven’t said thus far is: the real reason that I read so widely is to find the books that I can read deeply.  Books that hold information and knowledge that, when contemplated, can literally change the way a person looks at things, feels about things, the way that someone acts in the world.

These books have gifted me benefits too innumerable to recount.

#4 A Good Work:

A huge part of my happiness and satisfaction in life comes from doing a work that I love, that creates real value for others.

I have shaped my whole life around this idea, and the road has not always been easy, but I would honestly pay the price a thousand times over, and a thousand times more to be where I am right now.

Why?  Because doing a work that you love that adds value to the world is, in my humble opinion, what is meant by: living the Good Life.

#5 Good Relationships:

As ever, I have saved the most important for last.

I count myself lucky to be able to say, without reservation, that the greatest source of active joy in my life are the people that I love.  My partner, my true friends, my chosen family, and my audience.  The relationships I have been fortunate enough to: stumble upon,  find, nurture, or build, have given me something which lives well outside the borders of usual descriptive language.

The nearest I can get to it is to say that: in my life, I have never felt a deep connection with a specific place or location; instead, it is these primary relationships that have rendered within me the greatest feelings of love, the deepest sense of community, and the truest experiences of the meaning of the word: ‘home‘.

They are, quite literally, my everything.

Thankyou for reading this.

– J

[Note: Those are my five things – What are yours?  What are some of the things that you do or focus on in your life that make you happier year on year?  Please let me know in the comments section.]


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297 Replies to “The 5 Reasons I get Happier as I get Older…”

  1. Happenstance, what a joyous and charming word. It conjures up a myriad of thoughts and of an open fire with a an old oak chair, suitably placed to receive just enough warmth to toast my toes and warm my heart. Anyway, where was I?

    A most wonderfully thought provoking post. It would be difficult for me to add to those five but I’ll give you a run down of my thoughts on this subject.

    Physical exercise: like you, it enables me to function at a level that would otherwise be absent if I simply chose to get up and go about my day without some form of exercise. Not only does it invigorate me but it allows me to focus. Some forms of exercise, for example climbing, allow me to exist just in that moment; all my worries forgotten for that short space of time. Plus, I get to jump in puddles on my runs, climb through trees, climb styles, plan routes, laugh, reflect and love.

    Mindfulness and meditation: I couldn’t agree more with you on this one. I often run around at stupid speeds and find I’m being unproductive. Being mindful brings me back to the moment. It helps to remind me that yesterday is no longer relevant, tomorrow is yet to come and what truly matters is the here and now.

    Acceptance: that I am who I am and what I am and that I love me for all my nuances, eccentricities and crazy clothes and hair. I’d not have it any other way. These things make me, me and being me is really rather lovely.

    Appreciation: for my experiences and opportunities. They do in part, exist because I make things happen. Believe and it will be as probably the best way to describe my feeling on this subject. I remind myself of the little things that are often overlooked: walking, nature, reflection, fire, friends and a sense of humour when all else around me seems to be falling apart.

    Bravery: doing stuff that I don’t like to do is enough of a motivator to make me go out and do more of the same. I love a challenge and I’m always first in the queue when someone suggests a bizarre and quite frankly, mind blowing idea. I love being impulsive and while my life is mostly organised and often predictable (nothing wrong with that) I do like to just up and do something without any planning or aforethought.

    Annie

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    1. I love your five as well.
      Appreciation, in particular, is one that I thought about including in the article.
      And, on a side note, I also love the way they sound when you say your five in sequence. Just saying ;-)
      Thankyou again for taking the time to comment, I really love your positivity and your feedback.
      What can I say? You made me smile ;-)
      Have a great night,
      – J

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  2. Since I took early retirement, I live a less “scheduled” life. My awake and sleep times are diverse (I take more daily naps.) I can read, work on new illustrations and verse, watch an international movie, and come up with new cooking recipes even at the wee hours after midnight. An old military buddy got me back into playing guitar again (mostly late ’60’s to mid ’80’s stuff.) My wife, who is also retired, gets to share more time with me, including workouts– while still pursuing her own personal projects. I’m a bit more active in volunteer work (military veterans and senior citizens.) And I’ve got more time for gardening vegetables and caring for the whatever grow our yard. Staying healthy– both mentally and physically– has helped to round out the good life. Peace.

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    1. That sounds like the good life indeed. Most of all, I get the sense that you are content, which is, I would say, probably the core of living a life that one actually enjoys.
      Thankyou very much for stopping by, and for taking the time to write this to me, I truly appreciate it, and wish you the best.
      Have a good one,
      – J

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      1. You are possibly the only (inspiring) person I’ve read that sees contentment in a positive light. So many tell you it means you’ve just ‘settled’ for a life, that somehow contentment is the death of moving forward or trying new things. I feel to be content is a great place to be and in no way is a harness to hold you back from still wanting to go out and have adventures.

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        1. I agree again ;-)
          ‘Settling’ sounds more like giving up and living with unhappiness, don’t you think?
          I do think that when I am unhappy I get things done because it is clear what I need to change, but I much prefer working from a place in which I feel happy, and I find that generally I get more done and have a much more positive impact from the second place.
          Thankyou for this, I enjoyed answering it. ;-)
          – J

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  3. I agree with you. My top 5 happiness busters are:
    1. Connection with God (praying, going to church…)
    2. Reading and writing (I learn so much & I love words and well spoken people.)
    3. Exercise (Zumba & yoga primarily). And parties; I love dancing!!
    4. People (I love my friends and have been blessed with many great ones!)
    5. Pets (I’m the proud owner of a rescued dog… who rescued whom? I don’t know :-) )

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    1. That is a really cool 5 things – we share a lot of similarities ;-)
      Thanks so much for stopping by and for taking the time to write to me – I really appreciate it.
      Hope your night is going well,
      Speak soon,
      – J

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  4. It seems as you are the male me except for the physical. AND I too READ every single day. AND based on your comment about books, I would suggest anything by Joel Goldsmith and if you do get one or more…he uses the word God a lot…he used it because back then most people could not relate to God as Consciousness. I actually start each day with a book of his and a yellow highlighter….since I do not believe in the God that most of the world believes in, I have through his writings come to understand that the only God I will ever know, is the God, the Consciousness in me….anyway loved your post…

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    1. Hey there,
      Thanks so much – I’m really glad you liked it. ;-)
      I also read a TON, I will bear Goldsmith in mind, but have a lot of stuff on my ‘get to’ list, so will check it out if I get time.
      (That is a really cool way to start your day.)
      Thanks again, hope your night is good,
      – J x

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  5. Reblogged this and commented:
    I really enjoyed reading this post. Introspection and self awareness combined with a sense of connection to the beings and the world around us are definitely a recipe for feeling energized and having a meaningful life. In our society (especially in the USA), we focus so much on externals and on social and financial success, we tend to collectively forget that each of us does have a purpose and that the time we have here allows us to get to know our self and one another.

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    1. Hey there,
      First, thanks for sharing this – and for your kind words. I am really glad you liked the post, and found your commentary to be intriguing.
      Thanks for stopping by, keep up the good work,
      Speak soon,
      – J

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  6. Thanks James for an interesting blog and post. I think the five things that have made my life happier as i get older are 1. my three children who just get more interesting as they get older themselves, 2. an awareness that there is more to life than just the physical dimensions, 3. gratitude for all that is in my life even the challenges, 4. being able to write and touch people’s lives with my writing and 5. learning how to the declutter my life – both physically and emotionally – letting go of busyness and living more simply.

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    1. That is an utterly beautiful list, thankyou so much for sharing it. Gratitude seems (perhaps not surprisingly) to be a common theme in happy people’s lives. I had played with the idea of including it, but decided to go with the more concrete. That said, I am in total agreement with you ;-)
      Really glad that you took the time to write, stay in touch, and have a good one,
      – J

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  7. I loved your post! As I’ve gotten older, 61, I’ve found a few friends I’m able to share my beliefs. I would say the actions that make my life happier are: meditation, being grateful for ALL experiences, reading, sharing, and uplifting others.Several of us have planned to build a Spiritual Center on my farm. We’ll have a building for workshops, meditation areas in nature, and any program that will help people grow and develop their spirituality. We’ll have garden spots for people who would like to grow their own non-gmo food but don’t have a place. We’ll grow food for those less fortunate . Everyone should have a hand up. Thank you for your inspiring blog and thank you for reading mine. :)

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    1. Wow, this is a beautiful dream / plan – I love the sound of it and am very glad that you liked the post. Your actions are very similar to mine – so I am therefore in complete agreement with you about them ;-)
      Thankyou so much for taking the time, not only to read, but also to write this to me – you brightened my day.
      Be well, stay in touch, and best of luck with your project,
      – J

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  8. I love this post. I am still young–but I know that will pass quickly–and have found that being intentional about well-being definitely makes for a better lifestyle. Ironically, I recently read a book called “The Gift of Imperfection,” which is about learning to live a whole-hearted lifestyle. The advice and guideposts in the book, based on research, line up beautifully with what you write about in this post. I also really like the idea of listing your five, then challenging readers to think bout THEIR five… I know it’s something I’ve already been thinking about, since reading the book, but it’s always a beneficial thought process. Time spent improving your life and lifestyle, even if it seems self-centered or wasteful, is NEVER a waste of time. And you’re so right; it does improve interactions with others, as well as their lives. Thanks for posting!

    -Danielle

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    1. I love this comment ;-)
      I agree with pretty much every single point you have made here, thankyou so much for taking the time to read this and write to me about it.
      And I’m curious, any idea what your 5 are?…
      Big love, big hug,
      – J

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      1. Hmm.. that’s a tricky one. I think my 5 would be: running-I run 6 days a week, to clear my mind, stay in shape and think. Plus, I love to run and I think we need to do things we love to keep us happy and focused on what really matters. Second, I pray… I grew up with a strong Christian background, and knowing and maintaining that belief helps me so much because it allows me to have joy from within, that external circumstances can’t squander. Third, I make art… usually painting, but not always. Creating gives me a chance to let my imagination run wild, and it is also meditative for me. Fourth, and not so concrete, I try to focus on the positive things… I think if we spend too much of our energy thinking about the negative aspects of our lives, they’ll outweigh everything else. We only have so much energy to spend, and I find that when I spend it positively, I GET MORE energy. My fifth thing is a combination of reading/writing/talking. In this way, I can get my thoughts out, either on paper or with people I care about. Plus, reading allows me to escape to a different world, builds my understanding and perspective, and is just PLAIN FUN. I’m sure these 5 will change as I get older, but maybe not.. I don’t foresee myself ever “stopping” them… Thanks for the thought nugget! :)

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        1. I absolutely adore your 5 things. ;-)
          Prayer seems to be a common thread for those who are so inclined, as does physical exercise and gratitude. I love your combination of reading/writing/talking – that is a really good way to put it.
          They are all good in my view, more power to them, and to you,
          Hope your day is going well,
          Big love, big hug,
          – J

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  9. Hey James

    Thanks for stopping over and reading my short story; I am glad you liked it. I think your post is well written, crafted with care, and very positive. I can see why so many people love it. Keep it up!

    I too find myself getting happier as I get older (just turning 43). I understand what some of the folks here say about the difficulties of getting old. It’s hard to say: “This body is not me.”

    For me, it all changed one day when I had a most unusual experience, a kind of Satori, and I was able to let go of the death-embrace of the ego for a while. (At the time I had no idea what was happening). The experience left a happy residue, which I nurture by letting go of all the BS every day. What makes me happy are leaves moving in the breeze, the sun on stalks of grass in the veldt, thorn trees, the feel of the dirt under my bare feet, the magic in the smiles of others. In other words – the little things that are usually just off the radar. Paradise is all around us, we just need to open our eyes and hearts and invite it inside, where it belongs.

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    1. Hey there,
      You are most welcome, keep up the good work.
      Thankyou in return, you are very kind. I love your story, have you written about this at all? Seems like it may make a fascinating piece…
      Thanks very much for stopping by and taking the time to comment, I appreciate it ;-)
      Best of luck,
      – J

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  10. Hey there – back again. Am currently writing my monthly newsletter. I never quite know the theme until I start. It emerges from within. This time it just happens to be on happiness, and I remembered your fantastic blog on the topic, so am referencing it :)

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  11. Certainly good things to do for everybody, but somehow I feel you miss the point, comparing apples to pears. Aging is different for men and women in this society. If a man does what you do, he’ll probably become happier and stay attractive into old age (if he has money on top of it, even more). But for a woman, it’s different. Of course she will feel good, if she practices this, but she still just will be an old woman and loose a lot of her attractiveness in a culture, where youth is worshiped and older women are ridiculed or dishonored. Loosing attractiveness is for many women equal to loosing attention, touch, contact, respect, pretty much anything they have enjoyed when young.

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    1. First, thanks for stopping by, and for taking the time to both read, and write – I really appreciate it. ;-)
      I am not so sure that I agree with your point 100% tho, and I respectfully feel that you may have missed the point of the post slightly.
      What I am talking about is not how an individual (male or female) fits in with, or is perceived by the culture around them, but whether they themselves would be less happy or more happy down the line if they practiced certain things. The only comparison that actually holds up in this context is that of the individual with themselves – how their life would look in the future if they did, or did not do certain things.
      I am not saying that there are not differences in the way men and women are perceived in our society (I think this is true on both sides), but, converse to your point, I can think of quite a few mature women who are considered attractive as they age, and quite a lot of men who are denigrated. I think it is a lot less simple than, ‘men get a better deal as they age, and women get shafted’.
      No matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides (Spinoza said that).
      I hope this has been of some use, or at least hasn’t offended you.
      Be well,
      – J xxx

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  12. James, I can definitely relate to #1 Meditation. I meditate first thing in the morning to clean the dust from my windshield and mirror, and release the handbrake. :) My day goes much better! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. <3 dp

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    1. First – thanks a lot for stopping by, and for taking the time to comment, I really appreciate it greatly.
      The quote you liked is pretty much the foundation of Stoicism, as both: a school of thought, and a way of being.
      Much of Seneca’s work is concerned with how to actually engage with real life, and appreciate ‘that which is.’ – it’s one of the reasons that I like it so very much.
      Thanks again for stopping by, hope you are well,
      – J

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  13. James,
    Thank you for such a thoughtful, articulate and holistic post. I love your list and agree whole-heartedly. I would like to add that I vision as part of my meditation process, returning to the same intentions I am holding for myself and the world. Thank you for your teaching!
    Every peace and blessing!
    James

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  14. Well, I hope you’ll be still convinced about that when you’re 57 like me. However, I don’t mind getting older, and I can completely confirm that with no additional efforts it is possible to be much happier at older age.

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  15. My perception of Happiness is something that is gathered along the way.
    Something that constantly evades you like a deer running away from a tiger, however end of the day it is we who hold the power to pounce on it or to let it go.
    However I constantly strive to do whatever I like and whatever I am capable of because that is what is most likely to help gather my share of happiness along the way. :)

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  16. Wow…you’re a good writer. I too feel better as I get older, except when my knee hurts on the treadmill so I need to buy a knee support thingy😜 My 5 things that are a regular part of my life that make me happy are: prayer, books, music, exercise, being an advocate.
    I pray every night and every morning. I thank God for another day and sometimes I ask him to show me how to be a blessing to someone today.
    I have been an avid reader since elementary school. I mainly read non fiction books that can help me live my best life. Once in a while I take a break from all the learning and read a novel.
    Music has been a huge part of my life from a very young age. I used to sit in my room and play my 45s and records, and sing and dance, but most of all feel an emotional connection with the lyrics or sound. Today I still sing and dance. I have 538 songs on my ipod. I love all music from the angst of Rise Against to the acoustics of James Bay.
    I exercise 4 to 5 days a week. When I exercise I feel strong and sexy. When I skip it for a week I feel so the opposite.
    Lastly, being an advocate for issues that are important to me makes me feel powerful and energized, and amazed that my email or call to my senator makes a difference. I support mental health, and have spoken to college students about my experiences. I am a member of ONE since 2006 ; I am a partner in St. Judes children’s hospital; I have seen the awesome changes happen. Today 10 million aids victims in Africa receive the antiviral drug ad America is responsible for three quarters of that. I really love how Red is helping women take out loans and create businesses and send their children to school. It’s not about donating money; it’s about awareness and supporting the campaigns. One day I want to be able to do more and get more involved.
    Wow…thanks for helping me think about those 5 things, and hope you didn’t mind my rambling. It just moves me so much, I can talk about it forever!

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    1. This is a really amazing comment.
      First, I’d like to say Thankyou, for taking the time and writing something that was so truthful and in-depth to me. I love your 5 things and, from the way that you speak about them, it is obvious that they are working for you, so well done. ;-)
      Your whole message made me smile – you have literally brightened my day.
      Thankyou again, and please stay in touch,
      Big love,
      – J

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      1. Thanks so much James. I’m glad to hear I brightened your day. Thanks for your feedback; I like writing and it’s nice to hear that my words/feelings made an impact. Hey you just helped me with one of my 5 things! I’m following you now and I look forward to reading more of your musings.
        Traci💜

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  17. James,
    That was quite sage advice for someone still so young and I’m convinced it will only increase your happiness as you age. I turned 70 six months ago and looking back on my life, I must agree that it is not only possible, but quite feasible to feel happier with oneself as they age. As I aged I’ve encountered life as a series of losses, both physically and in terms of relationships. It was how I accepted those inevitable losses, that determined the measure of my happiness in life at any given time. I became an orphan at a relatively young age and my immediate reaction was anger at the unfairness of their untimely deaths. For me that led to Gestalt Psychotherapy which helped me mourn their passing and heal myself of all the detritus of my unhappy youth.
    Gestalt therapy techniques have a strong meditative component as well as a methodology for encountering one’s life as it is, not as one would fantasize it to be.

    I’ve had four intense love relationships, that taught me through each, much about myself, my strengths and my weaknesses. The fourth has been the love of my life and literally has saved my life four times. My first heart attack was a massive one that happened at age 37, when we had only been together for a scant six months. She stood by my side and nurtured me through it. She supported me in my chosen field of work, which was in the helping professions, though we both knew we would never be successful financially.

    My work expressed who I was. It allowed my natural empathy for the struggles of people to guide me in helping them. It gave me great satisfaction and pleasure. As I explained to those I gave aid to, I did it not do it because I was altruistically motivated, but because it made me feel good to help. This allowed my relationships with my clients to be on an equal footing. So two of my own “secrets” were having the love of another and work that satisfied me.

    In life it is said that if you have had two, or three good friendships, you are a lucky soul. I’ve had many more and found the secret to it has been that I never had any expectations that I laid upon others save that we based our relationship on honesty and respect. I find that having no expectations of those you see socially, other than enjoying their companionship, builds strong ties.

    Physically, I did work out for many years, but my worsening heart condition sapped much of my strength and energy. I finally was forced to retire 10 years ago from Congestive Heart Failure. My wife nursed me through that and when the time came, through her extensive research put me in a situation where as I was dying, I was saved by a miracle heart transplant. That was five years ago and has given me a new life. Which brings me to my final secret for maintaining increasing joy of life as one ages.

    In about 650 BCE, Confucius formulated what I consider to be the basis of all philosophy. One hundred years later The Buddha formulated his version. Jesus formulated it, as what we know to be “The Golden Rule” and about the same time, in the same region, Rabbi Hillel the Elder gave his version: “What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow, this is the whole Torah [or Bible, or Koran]; the rest is the explanation; go and learn” He followed it up with: “If I am not for myself, who is for me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?”

    I’ve managed somehow to live my life with these concepts as my basic approach to others and to the world. Whether I’ve been blessed by good Karma, by a deity, or merely by incredible luck, I neither know, nor speculate about. Yet on some level encountering my environment with those words to guide me has made me a very lucky man and with that “luck” has come increasing joy in my life.

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    1. I gave myself a little bit of time before responding to this because it just blew me away.
      Thankyou so much for writing such a detailed and in-depth answer – actually I feel it’s more like a letter, and one that I was very happy to read.
      You life sounds as if it has been long and storied, and from the sound of your letter, you have made the most of what you have been given, something which I salute, and which I feel is key to a fulfilling run on this plane.
      I really can’t say thankyou enough, I’ve read and re-read this and love it more each time.
      You made me smile. You brightened my day. Thankyou so much for your time.
      Be well,
      – J

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  18. What an absolutely beautiful post! And you are still so young to have realized these gems of life. Each day is certainly a gift and I think our lives evolve according to our perceptions, whether they be positive or negative. I choose positive and when I find myself drifting into the negative realm, I give myself more time for reflection and rest. Keep shining that radiant light that jumps off the page of your post. I’ll bet you are even brighter in person! ;-) Namaste.

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  19. This has come a preciptious time for I am in the process of doing a digital storytelling class in which I must decide on a topic, write a script and then put all of that together in a slide presentation with music. It is daunting! I don’t know if I will make it or not in this technological world but I am trying. And so I began to write and with each paragraph one thought came back to me again and again: This is really a celebration! I chose to hone in on how God has protected me for these last 70+ yrs and yes I am happier all because of the experiences in my past which have been used to form a beautiful tapestry. Thinking back over the many persons that have entered my life has caused me to stop and thank God for each one. They became the reds, the blues, the many other colors of God’s paintbrush and although the weaving is incomplete one day it will be. One day my feet will leave this world and I will step out on that celestial shore of God’s heaven and I will once again be reunited with those wonderful people who have embraced me, cajoled me, prayed for me, lived their lives before me. How could I not be happy? I celebrate each and every one for they were used by God to impact me in ways they never knew.
    Thanks for stopping by and liking by blog. I took that title because often we do not see the beauty because “self” gets in the way and all we see is the barrenness. But, when we seek “self’ as God’s chosen instrument it changes our focus and then we see not the barrenness but a beautiful tapestry one strand at a time. Reflecting is time consuming but oh so rewarding. I wonder if Paul felt that way as he ended the book of Romans in chapter 16. A thought to ponder.

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    1. Thankyou very much for this beautifully in-depth comment. I am really glad you found something of worth in my post, and I am also glad that you find yourself in the same, somewhat enviable position.
      Getting comments like this makes me deeply happy so thankyou, you have enriched my day,
      Be well, always,
      – J

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  20. Lovely post. You’re as old as you feel, right? At 40 I am much happier than I was, when I was in my 20’s. (I still feel ’26’, only better :-) ).
    And 3 years ago, I lost my mother, she was only 59. I’m sure she would have been happy to have gotten older..
    Good writing, would love to read more

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    1. Thankyou very much, both for your kind words, and for taking the time to write them. I appreciate them greatly ;-)
      My sincere condolences on your loss, big, big love to you.
      Hope your day is going beautifully,
      – J x

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  21. Thanks for a great post! I work with some youngins and at 30 they think I’m SO old. In reality it’s really special growing up and aging. I appreciate your thoughts!

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  22. I couldn’t agree with you more on your five …one being the most important to me and then five… Everything in the middle can be forever in flux but even those as we learn how to harness this God given power, can be completely within our grasp…
    Good to meet you
    Thank you for reading my post…

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  23. When I read your age I laughed like the others. In my twenties, between marriage, babies, divorce, poverty, my Dad dying, and all the in-betweens it was a pretty rough decade filled with tears and depression but I was constantly thinking there had to be something better. A new supervisor came to the factory and shared something that changed my outlook on life and aging. He said he didn’t think he would make it through his twenties and was happy to see that decade end. His thirties were much better but his forties were even better so he was looking forward to the beauty of being fifty. He shared that it was during the down times that he began to learn and make changes in his direction. So on my thirtieth birthday I asked for colorful balloons and a small celebration. Loved my thirties – so many adventures and changes in life. There were ups and downs but I began to look at them differently. One event that had another impact at 32 was the death of my cousin. I learned how precious life because we were the same age and attended the same school from Kindergarden through senior year. He was killed in a car crash while driving his daughter to school. One month later, I became unemployed. I thought of Phillip – he would never have the chance to be unemployed or given a new chance at life. I found unemployment a blessing and even thanked my employer for the time at his company. I joined the National Guard and went to college full-time while raising my children and working part-time jobs. I loved this new life. As my fortieth birthday approached I was very grateful to be alive and asked for a colorful celebration because I turned 40 on Thanksgiving Day that year. Now that I am in my mid-fifties I find miraculous occurrences throughout the day. Life is a miracle.
    I love your five things and Irm Brown’s as well. Life is to be lived at any age and I am happy to hear that you have this philosophy on life and aging because you will go far. May you have a long and abundant life filled with love, grace, health, joy, adventure, and peace!!
    Sorry for my rambling but I was so impressed to see, at 37, that you have really thought this out and to know there are others out there with the same philosophy on aging that I carry within me. If I hear one more person at work, in the store, or anywhere apologize for their lack of ability due to their aging and ailments I will scream:( Not really, but I want to shake them and say look at the food you ingest, the lack of movement as you go from couch to car to chair back to car to couch. Get up and DANCE for crying out loud, laugh a little bit, be silly, do something new, travel down new roads, eat new food, get out and meet new people, meditate, take a class . . .
    (Can you convert the price to dollars so I will know how much to pay for your music?)

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    1. This is beyond beautiful. Thankyou so much for taking time out of your day to read this post and to write such a wonderfully in-depth message to me, I am very touched.
      Also, I am glad that you have made it thru your hard times, and emerged better for them. I think that this is one of the key skills we need as human beings if we are to gain in happiness as we age. Bravo to you! ;-)
      I am really glad to have made your acquaintance, you made me smile in my heart.
      Hope your day is going well Big big love and hug,
      – J
      PS – When you press the ‘Buy’ link on the music, it should convert the price to the dollar amount. Hope that helps, let me know if you have any issues. Be well, x

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  24. I’ve had a similar experience upon telling someone that life began for me at 40, of which I will be 41 this October. Your reasons above are precise. Great post!

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  25. Sometimes the apparent distress of another can serve to wake one up to what is actually actual. So far, the older I am the more access I have to everything I’ve experienced, almost instantaneously. Part of the trick is to ‘keep alive’ now so that I’ll continue to have more to recall and reinvent, and reconnect later on. What you’ve written up so well is a health plan for the soul or psyche or what have you to best ensure that that’s possible. Helpful words to all!

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    1. Thankyou so, so much for this I really appreciate it – you are very kind.
      It gives me a lot of joy to hear that you are also becoming happier as you are aging – really well done you ;-)
      I agree wholeheartedly about ‘keeping alive’ in the now, this is certainly key.
      Glad you stopped by. Have a good one.
      – J

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  26. Good stuff. Five things that make me happier, LOL, at twice your age, I should be able to list ten. But no, let’s stick with five: Writing every day; Simplifying my life with less stuff; reading a wide variety of books, blogs, and manuscripts; praying & centering down; touching the lives of others.

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